In the midst, of endless days of weariness, diapers, mounds of laundry,and dirty dishes, sometimes we moms wonder if being a stay at home mom really matters in the long run. Is it really worth the sacrifice? I hope that this post will be an encouragement of how life changing your job really is in the big picture.
1. Being a stay at home mom is worth it because God said that it was.
I know that this part of the post will not be popular with some and that it is a hot topic with many. I am sorry if I offend anyone. I do not desire to give anyone a bad day. On the other hand, I am a firm Bible believer and do not apologize for the truth. I understand that every woman's situation is different, and that some are not given the opportunity to stay at home. For these precious mammas, my heart goes out to you. I do not condemn you in the least, but admire your strength.
Regardless of circumstance though, all women must realize that motherhood is important. Staying at home is a choice that my husband and I have made for our family because we believe that is what God would have us to do. It is easy to base decisions off popular opinion or the latest research study, but it is nice to have a solid foundation on which to base decisions. We have a God who created us, loves us, and knows us. He in turn also gave us a book, the Bible, to guide us.
The Bible tells us that children are a blessing (Ps. 127:3), that children need a mother's instruction (Prov.1:8), and that it is a parent's responsibility to teach and prepare their children for life (Deu. 6). I may not understand or even fully see why this is important, but the God who created me knows best. We as a family choose to trust Him even when popular opinion says otherwise. So from a spiritual standpoint, being a stay at home is worth it because God said it was.
2. Being a stay at home is worth it because of the preparation it gives.
My mom was a stay at home mom, and it was the greatest gift she ever gave me. My mom is my hero, and my number one teacher. She taught me how to read, sew, cook, clean, and everything in between. She prepared me fully for every stage of life before it happened. She took her job as a mom seriously, and I am blessed because of it.
Growing up many of my friends’ moms worked, and they were able to take elaborate vacations and have nice toys and clothes. Whereas, we had homemade or thrift store clothes and went camping (neither of which I regret).
Fast forward ten years, I am able to fully love being a wife and mom because my mom prepared me with the needed tools and realistic expectations to thrive .On the other hand, my friends really struggle with just the basics of cleaning, cooking, and scheduling. I am by no means better, I just had a mom who prepared me well, and now I am so grateful to be able to reap the benefits.
3. Being a stay at home is worth it because of the relationships it develops.
I loved my mom being home, well most of the time, unless I had to clean the bathroom again for the fifteenth time before breakfast because I wasn’t doing a thorough job. I loved the long talks around a cup of hot chocolate, dancing while cleaning, and the rainy days of listening to my mom read me stories.
Now that I am married and have a family of my own, I relish these memories even more. Those precious times are now over; I get to now have those precious moments with my own children. I still call my mom almost on a daily basis, just to talk or ask advice. I am so thankful that my mom took the time to invest in my life, by being present. Now, I am able to reap the benefits of a wonderful friendship.
4. Being a stay at home mom is worth it because it gives you the time to instill godly character.
I have heard it said in many ways and from many different people groups that within the first five years of life, a child’s personality, outlook, and character are established. I wholeheartedly agree that if you neglect training during these vital years, you will reap much heartache later on. I am so glad that I was not able to get away with much as a young girl.
My mom was always there making sure I did my best and instilling in me life lessons. If you are not there to instill in your children character, someone else will, although, it may not be the type of character you want them learning. Being a stay at home mom, gives you the time to teach and instill in your children the character you want them develop.
These are just some among many of the areas that I believe being a stay at home mom is worth the time and sacrifice. What are some of the benefits you see from being a stay at home mom?