In our world today, women can do everything and don't need a man. True chivalry and man hood are a thing of the past. We as a society have moved on from those ancient ideas, and we are so much better for it. Or are we?
Woman have gotten their equality and can be anything they want to be, but our children have lost their mommies. Our society in turn is the weakest it has ever been because our children raise themselves. Now we have a generation that grows up without a mommy and daddy, because daddy's don't do anything anyways.
I am sorry, but that is all wrong, and our society is living proof. In my post a mother's influence, I talk about why children need a mommy's full attention, but in this post, I will focus on why children need a daddy.
I had the rare privilege of growing up with a two parent family. My dad brought stability to my life. I knew that I would always have everything I needed and most of the time everything I wanted as well because my dad would make it happen.
All my life, my dad worked two or more jobs, so that my mom could stay with us and give us the love only a mother could give. My dad was my strength, when I was with him, everything was going to be okay. When I had problems, my dad would come to the rescue. He was my strength and protector.
My dad was also my logic. As a teenage girl,I was emotional and out of sorts, I needed my dad's calm logic to guide me. I love my mom dearly, but she couldn't provide the straightforward logic that my dad could. My dad was my rock. When I didn't know what to do or how to handle a situation, when I was overwhelmed, my dad was there to see me through. I could count on his advice and guidance.
My dad also was my first love and showed me how a girl should be treated. I have lots of fond memories of special daddy/daughter dates. I knew that I would always have my daddy's love, and I didn't need to go find a boy to find acceptance. My dad thought I was beautiful and talented, and he told me so. I didn't need affirmation from anyone else. My dad very wisely kept my heart and didn't let me have any boyfriends until I was at a marriageable age. Of course, I was interested in boys, but because my dad held the key to my heart and kept open communication with me, I talked to him freely about any crushes I had.
When I was a preteen, before I reached that stage, my dad and I sat down and made of list of the type of man I wanted to marry. We had lots of good talks about what to look for in a boy, and how that marriage was a lifetime commitment. So every time, I had a crush on a boy, my dad and I would sit down and see whether he was the type of man I wanted to marry. Just his mere wisdom in this area saved me the turmoil of experiencing a broken heart at a young age. When I was ready to marry, I had my dad's wisdom to guide me, and all in all, I knew that I wanted to marry someone just like my dad.
Now, I look back and am so thankful for my dad. I did marry someone like my dad, and I have the most amazing marriage ever. I love being married, but honestly, that wouldn't have been my story, if I were left to myself or if even it were up to my mom. My mom has great judgment, but men know men.
God gave mom's and dad's different roles in the home, neither is less than the other. They are equally important, and when one is missing, you have a child that grows up emotionally handicapped. My mom taught me how to be a lady, and my dad taught me how to look for a man that treated me like a lady. My mom brought the comfort, love, and compassion. My dad brought the protection, strength, wisdom, and security.
One person can't do all and be all, that is why God created both a man and a woman. We were made different by design, and God's design produces the best outcome.