"Cherish the moment, soon you'll be apart. Cling to the memory, clasp it to your heart...." These are the words from a song sung by Ron Hamilton, but they have resonated in my heart over and over again this summer. I have been reminded how uncertain life is by the passing away of my brother and grandpa.
I am so glad that I have so many good memories with them, and that our last times together were precious. There were certain things though that I learned through this grieving period that have taught me a lot and helped me to develop as a person.
For one I learned that whenever I leave anyone for any amount of time, I will leave in good standing. I will not ever walk away angry. I will resolve the issue now. This has definitely helped my communication.
I say this because two months before my brother passed away, we had the privilege of spending the morning together. We had a great time, and I talked his ear off. :) We ended the time with hugs and pictures and a planned camping outing for later in the summer.
Since his untimely death, I have revisited that day over and over again. I am so thankful that it was a precious memory. I would have had a very difficult time emotionally dealing with his death if out last meeting ended in an argument. So I am committed to not sweat the small stuff, and let things go.
Another thing that was a huge eye opener to me was how hurtful it was when people I knew and loved totally ignored the fact that I was grieving. I can't say much on this point because I know that I have amazing friends. They just didn't know how to tell me anything, and I totally get that. Especially because I have done the exact same thing, but I now I know by experience that that approach is very hurtful to the person grieving.
My goal in the future is to strive to just give them a hug, flowers, and a simple card to let them know that I am there, that will mean the world to them. Well, at least it did to me.
The last thing I learned is that I am so glad that I am a Christian and on my way to Heaven. This is not about religion, it is about a relationship with God. I am so glad that I didn't have to go through this trial and grieving period alone.
I am so blessed to have a God that not only knows me, but truly understands what I am feeling because He once walked in my shoes. I think how amazing it is that Jesus Christ suffered every pain imaginable on this earth, so that He could truly empathize with us. God is so good, and I am so glad to be His child!
I know that this is not a profound post, but it definitely what I have learned over the past two months. I hope that it can help someone who is grieving or someone that has a grieving friend.